I have to

Like most kids, I learned the little engine that could story: "I think I can, I think I can".


I'm here to tell you that's not enough.  It's nice to have positive affirmations.  Thinking is believing and having a belief is nice.  I would like to suggest there is thinking and just doing!

Earlier this month I had a couple small children to think about, work had a bunch of deliverables and school work piled up.  Frequently I found myself myself asking how I could get all the things done and give the amount of attention my loved ones deserve.  There was no 'think I can' it became 'I have to.'

I have to rings in my head when I look up a mountain I wish to run up.  Can I do it?  I have to!

I believe this fine gent said it best:

<<When I kill that guy, you got 30 feet to get to that guard.

Can you do it?

**I have to.>>

Practice kindness

It's the holiday season, I'm not sure what motivated me to write this way off-topic post.   But... 

What's your first priority?

Over heard At a couple's counseling session:
Husband: ...and my wife just doesn't get it, she kept arguing even though I proved I was right!
Counselor: Yeah, sometimes we all forget what's most important.
Husband: To be right?!
Counselor:  No, to be kind.  

It's so easy to make quick and mean judgements.  How many times in traffic do you scream 'goooo, fucker!'.  Or 'that bitch made me miss that light, I could kill her!'.

Argument with spouse or child, crazy self criticism -- it's all the same.  If you had one more wicket added between your senses and your reaction, make it the question: 'am I being kind?'

If kindness was everybody's first priority, life would be pretty sweet.

In your relationships:  They deserve kindness. You deserve kindness in return.  It's free.  It takes one small filter inserted into your brain.  Practice it!

The rub: how can I be kind when fuck-face over there isn't going to be!?
The hard answer: show fuck-face exemplary behavior.  It may be the hardest thing you can do.  But it's the right thing.